I was adopted in the mid fifties by Maurice Jarvis and his wife, Mary Thelma “Kim” Jarvis. They named me Shelley Kay. I was born in March reportedly in Wyandotte General Hospital in Wyandotte, Michigan. I had/have a large port wine stain on one side of my nose. When I was young it extended across my face from my right eye to my left cheek. I also have an oval brown birthmark on my side.
According to the non-identifying information that I’ve gotten from the state, it was a private adoption. Everything that follows I take with a grain of salt as people often lie on adoption papers. My birth mother was born in the 1928 timeframe. She was 5 foot 2 inches tall, weighed 120 lbs. and had brown hair and grey eyes. She was French (Canadian it appears) and Irish. Her mother died a month or so after she was born and she was raised by her mother’s sister. She had no brothers or sisters but her aunt had two girls and a boy in the house besides herself. It is unclear if these were her aunt’s children or other fostered children. My mother was Catholic and married to a man not my father. She had a boy born in 1952-3 by her husband. She may have been getting a divorce when I was given up for adoption. She had completed high school and worked for a short period as a store clerk. She said that she was born in Michigan.
My purported father was 5 foot 10 inches tall, stocky, with blue eyes and blond hair. He was ten years or so older than my mother so born in 1916-1919. He was married with two children of his own. Since he was older, it’s likely that the children were born in the mid forties. He denied any responsibility for my mother being pregnant. My mother claimed he was German and Protestant. He was a salesman.
My genetics seem to verify my father’s identity. I have an unusual eye color that is only possible with one grey eyed parent and one blue eyed parent. They are blue on the outside, gold near the middle and green in between. I also started out as a strawberry blond, became a dirty blond and then went to light brown hair when I hit 20. It’s now mostly silver.
My mtDNA, which indicates your mother’s mother’s mother’s etc. ancestry, is K1a10a and indicates pre-Celtic Irish or English lineage although it’s possible that my maternal line came from Norway, Sweden, or Scotland.
My DNA matches at both FTDNA and 23andMe indicate that I’m French Canadian and Irish certainly with the possibility that the Irish side has only been in the country for a few generations. I’ve also got a strong streak of English and German. I suspect that I’m a German/Belgian/Prussian mix with some Nordic tossed in for good measure on my father’s side.
My Dad’s Family
I’m getting very close to finding my father’s immediate family because I have gotten a predicted third cousin (possibly as close as a half second cousin), a predicted 3-5th cousin (possibly a half second cousin once removed) and a predicted 4th-6th cousin (who is actually a double 5th cousin) , two at AncestryDNA and one at 23andMe, who are all Bangerts. One of the closer Bangert cousins is related to me on our X chromosome. Because of that I know that the Bangert line came through my father’s mother. That means his last name may not have been Bangert (there is a lot of intermarrying within the Missouri Bangerts so my dad’s mom and dad could both have been Bangerts.) This line is from German Prussia in the mid 1800s. I suspect my father may also have either English or Irish lines through his father. The most probable MRCA (Most Recent Common Ancestor) is Heinrich Frederick Christian Bangert and his second wife Minnie Schmidt. If we aren’t second half cousins though, then I will need to look back one generation at Johann H Bangert and Johnetta Fischer both born c 1819 in Vasbeck, Waldeck, Prussia (Germany.)
One of My Irish Lines
Due to the kind help of one of my cousins, Therese Tuohy, I’ve been able to identify my Irish lines! She and a second cousin of hers both share with me on the same segment of DNA which likely indicates we have the same ancestors. So I now am confident that my Irish ancestors (probably my mother’s maternal line (but it could be my dad’s!) came from Swinford, County Mayo, Ireland. The ancestral pair whose ancestors I descend from are James Brady born 1855 and Bridget McNulty born 1869 in Swinford. Either their parents or grandparents are our most recent common ancestor.
Swinford, County May, Ireland
One of my Irish lineages appears to go through North Carolina with surnames Pugh, Bennet and Griffin. I also have close relatives, third or fourth cousins, in Australia with the Walsh surname. The French Canadian line is hard to trace because the population is so intermarried but I’m related to people with the following surnames: Rose, Roy-Desjardines, Dube, Gendron, and Paquet. Aside from the Brady/McNulty line mentioned above, the Irish side seems to have Walsh, MacDonald’s, Corcoran, Sullivan, and Byrnes.
Errata About Me That My Family May Share
I have three degrees that you can read about elsewhere on the site and an IQ of around 150. I have a musical drive but I’m not really good with any instrument although I’m ok with a hand drum. I love to dance and am decent at certain types of dance. I paint in acrylics, dabble in photography, can handle a hammer and saw, and like to do craft type projects. When I’m doing anything creative I can completely forget what day it is.
I spent six years in the military, I love to swim – I spent all day in the water when I was young. I am fond of animals and love to grow plants. I read ravenously when young, everything from comic books to science fiction. Now I’m writing instead of reading.
I am a night person, I am writing this at 4:30 am and I could stay up another three hours without blinking. It doesn’t matter what time I go to bed, I’m not fully functional till noon.
I’m fat. There’s just no way around it. I fought it all my life but I lost the battle
I would really love to meet my family. I’ve always felt that I had siblings somewhere in the world when I was young even though I was raised an only child.
If you have information that you think will help me find my family: